The Lost Art of Victorian Flirtation

Hello, darlings.

We all remember that tingle in the pit of our stomachs when the butterflies take flight at the thought of someone special. Especially when they enter the room. You’ve had your eye on them for weeks. They have been on your mind constantly and you cannot wait to see them again. They give you a feeling of elation unlike anything you’ve ever experienced in your life. But they don’t know how you feel.

What do you do?

Flirt, baby. Flirt like it’s the end of the world and this is your last chance to confess all those emotions you’ve kept bottled inside.

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The art of flirtation is a delicate tightrope to walk just as much now as it was in the Victorian era. However, the methods have changed significantly.

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While the prospect of leather-bound books and the scent of rich mahogany is appealing, the art of flirting wasn’t always so straightforward. The strict social etiquette of the Victorian era often limited the interaction between an unmarried woman and a prospective suitor. In fact, sometimes I think the possibility of being discovered was half the excitement of engaging in a flirtation.

Here are a few guides I found that provide ways of conveying your sentiments and flirting without ever using words. I thought you might find them interesting. I certainly did.

Honestly, I would be terrified that I would inadvertently send the wrong message. *gasp* How could you possibly undo that damage?

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I would love to see these moves in action. Wouldn’t you?

But what about gentleman?

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Or perhaps you require another method to show your affections. Well, here are some signaling possibilities to take into consideration. Again, I would be extremely concerned about accidentally sending the wrong message. Or worse, sending one when I had not intended a message at all!

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Oh, sweet mercy, I’m exhausted. How could anyone keep up with all of this? Not only the etiquette but the flirtations!

And don’t even get me started on the American Escort Cards. Here’s a humorous look at their role in American Victorian history. CLICK HERE for article.

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Of course, one cannot forget to send flowers. But be aware, each flower holds a special meaning. It would be wise to choose flowers with care. Even the colors could represent a different emotion. Roses often came in a variety of colors and meanings.

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*collapses in a heap* I’m overwhelmed. I thought flirting today was difficult.

There is something to be said for the allure and romantic nature of such a flirtation. I’m not sure I appreciate the modern technique of flirting. It seems too impersonal and focused solely on instant gratification. I love the slow burn of a simmering attraction.

I think we should bring some of these techniques back. Not all of them, mind you, but I think it could be fun, even if I’m only flirting with my husband.

What do you think of Victorian flirtation? Do you prefer modern methods better? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Also, do you think I should make a video attempting to demonstrate some of these flirting techniques? If so, leave me a comment with your choice of flirtation to demonstrate. This should be fun.

Until we meet again, may your bookshelves be full and your hearts even more so.

All my love,

Kirsten

An Irresistible Release!

Today is the day!  An Irresistible Shadow is available for purchase.

Someone catch me, I might faint.  I have dreamed about this day for years.  I’m officially a novelist.  *runs around the house screaming with joy and jumping on the bed*

In celebration of this monumental day in my life, I’d like to share something awesome.  I had a very talented artist draw a portrait of Gabriel and Evelyn.

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Jennifer Healy did an amazing job capturing my characters, all from my descriptions.  She used colored pencils.  Freaking amazing right?  You can find her on deviant art and her personal website.

Links here:  http://jenniferhealy.deviantart.com/

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If you are interested in reading Gabriel and Evelyn’s story, you can purchase it directly from Breathless Press:  http://www.breathlesspress.com/index.php?main_page=product_free_shipping_info&cPath=17&products_id=478

Amazon Kindle:  http://www.amazon.com/An-Irresistible-Shadow-ebook/dp/B00F5JHS6U/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1379084336&sr=8-2&keywords=kirsten+s.+blacketer

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Thank you for your support and kind words!  I look forward to sharing more of my stories and my passion for romance!

In Ink,

Kirsten S. Blacketer